Accepting a wedding invitation comes with a few obligations whether you are a close friend, a family member or an acquaintance. Weddings, as you know, do cost a substantial amount of money and helping the newly wedded couple to offset the cost by giving them a gift is only fair. After all, everyone gets their turn at some point or another. So, is $100 sufficient as a wedding gift in 2021?
As a general rule $100 per person is a sufficient amount you should give as a wedding gift, but it is the minimum you should give. The ideal number would be somewhere around $150 per person and above. If you are close to the couple, then $200 and above per individual (if you can afford it) is the norm.
There is no specific amount per se that everyone should stick to as the real value comes from your relationship with the couple. However, sometimes it might be considered a bit rude to gift them a very small sum of money. So, if you are stuck in a situation where you don’t know how much is considered to be good and how much will be too less, then here is a general overview of the matter.
Is $100 sufficient as a wedding gift in 2021?
The consensus is that anything less than $50 per person is considered to be quite rude and this applies to all weddings no matter how small or lavish they might be. However, on average each person spends about $160 and above on wedding gifts. This includes scenarios where money itself is given as a gift. So, the ideal range would be somewhere between $150 and $200 per person. This doesn’t mean that you must always stick to this range as sometimes circumstances can change and you might not be able to afford to gift that much money. In such cases, you can instead opt for giving a creative gift that has a lot of thought behind it but costs less money.
If you are still unsure about your financial wedding obligations, then here are a few tips on how you can make the right decision.
- Traditional norm – As per tradition, one should try to match the amount of money being spent by the couple on each guest. So, if the wedding couple is spending $100 per guest, then ideally you should be spending $200 ($100 from you and your plus one). This can get pretty expensive sometimes and so should be followed only if you can afford it.
- Consider your expenditure – A lot of people don’t consider how much they need to spend just to attend the wedding and find themselves getting stretched out financially when it comes to giving gifts. If you need to pay for accommodation and flights, then you can spend only what you can afford when it comes to the wedding gift.
- Closeness to the couple – The ideal wedding gift amount is somewhere around $150 but it can vary based on how close you are to the couple. Those who are very close to the couple usually shell out up to $200 or more per person whereas if you don’t know them personally, you can go down to $100 or $125 per person.
Before taking any decision, make sure you weigh in all the points above to figure out the best number to go for. There is no hard and fast rule that you must spend “x” amount of money. At the end of the day, it depends on how close you are, how much money you are spending to just attend the wedding and how much you can afford (Recommended article: “What Should You Give Your Daughter on Her Wedding Day?“)
Is it rude to give money as a gift?
Although one might think that, it is not considered to be rude if you give money as a gift to the wedding couple. In fact, it might be preferred over other items as it gives the couple the freedom to spend the money on what they need. In a lot of weddings, the couple usually ends up with a lot of duplicate items such as kitchen appliances and other household items. By gifting cash, they can either choose to add it to their savings or they can use it to buy something useful.
As they begin their new chapter in life, they will surely be grateful for any financial assistance in setting up their new home. The only thing you need to keep in mind is to always leave a note in the cash envelope. It not only adds a personal touch to the gift but it also allows you to express your wishes to them in a heartfelt manner. If you are worried about the envelope getting lost, then feel free to use a check instead of bills. If you want to know more about it, I recommend the article: “Do You Give Cash or Check As a Wedding Gift?“.
How much money do you give a close friend at a wedding?
Generally, a distant relative or an acquaintance gives somewhere around $100 to $125 per person as a wedding gift. Since the average amount of money that is given as a wedding gift is $150, those who are close to the couple might give more. Based on how much they can afford, they can gift anywhere from $150 to $200 and above. This is calculated per individual basis and so if you have a plus one, then in total it can go up to $300 or $400. If you cannot afford it, you can gift them what you can as the couple will surely understand. Never feel pressured to gift more than what you can afford. (Recommended article: “Do Bridesmaids Give Gifts at Bachelorette Party?“)
How much do you give as a wedding gift if you don’t attend?
This one can get a bit tricky and is asked by a lot of people. After all, if you aren’t attending, then you don’t need to spend any money on hotels or traveling. So, should you give more money to the couple or the same amount if you had attended it? One easy solution will be to give a gift from the wedding registry. However, if you feel that giving them cash would be better, then you can gift them somewhere between $50 to $125 or $150 to $175 (per person) based on how close you are to the couple.
How much do you give for a wedding if you are not invited?
This one might seem tricky as well but it’s pretty simple as it’s more or less up to you and what you feel is right. If the couple isn’t very close to you, then you don’t have to send them a gift. If you feel generous, you absolutely can of course but you are not obligated to do so.
If it’s someone close to you but due to certain circumstances where they couldn’t invite everybody, then gifting them somewhere in the ballpark of $100 to $150 would be more than sufficient. It doesn’t even have to be money though as you can even call up the hotel where they are staying for their honeymoon and arrange a wine bottle to be sent to their room. Either way, do send a note too along with your gift to express your well-wishes to the newly married couple. If you want to know more about it, I recommend the article: “Do You Give a Gift If You don’t Go to the Wedding?“.
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